Boundaries

I am not on a witness stand, am I?

I am not on a witness stand, am I?

If youโ€™re an educator, like me, you know that we rarely blame a student for not understanding a lesson. It happens, but itโ€™s rare. We see ourselves as capable of teaching from multiple perspective, angles, and strategies. If a student doesnโ€™t understand, we bear the burden of adapting our communication styles.

I have found myself living the life of an explainer. And what I have realized is that my early adult experience of preparing to be on a literal witness stand merged with my background in education and the result was a false responsibility for helping others โ€œget it.โ€

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Helping Without Rescuing

Helping Without Rescuing

If youโ€™ve ever met me, you know that I am helpful. I believe in change, growth, community action, and small steps leading to noticeable progress.

If you are anything like me, then you know that us helpful souls, strategic thinkers, or โ€œvery useful engines,โ€ as my nephewโ€™s formerly favorite show would call us; need boundaries.

Here are some things Iโ€™ve learned to say in order to keep my help โ€œhealthy.โ€

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